10 things you must give up to get yourself back on track
Stop pretending that you should be the way you used to be
When times get tough, our worst battles are often between what we remember and what we currently feel; Hence, one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stand up and fight harder or when to take your memories with you and move forward. Sometimes, you have to forget the person you once were and remember the person you were. Who you are supposed to be, and who you are today.
Stop beating yourself up
Being kind to yourself in thoughts, words, and actions is no less important than being kind to others; So give yourself compliments and love, and work on overcoming your fears and anger. Instead of hiding from your problems, help yourself overcome them. This is what self-care is all about; It's about confronting the inner problems that make you think you're insignificant, and learning to see that you are truly beautiful. It is not because you do not see your faults; It's because you know that you must have flaws to balance your strengths. Regretting the life you think you should have lived, you end up missing out on the good things you had, and at first life won't look like you wanted it to look, but when the time is right you'll realize it was just right, so be grateful for the things that didn't work out, because they... Make room for the things that will work, and also be grateful to those who have moved away from you, because they have made room for the people who will not walk away from you, and as the saying goes: “Every new beginning comes from the end of another beginning.”
Stop indulging yourself in the negativity surrounding you
Being positive in negative times is not foolish optimism; rather, it is based on the fact that human history is not only a history of tragedy; it is also a history of success, sacrifice, courage, and kindness. And growth. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine how well we live. If we look for only the worst, it will destroy our ability to do our best. If we remember the many times and places where people behaved admirably and things went well; This gives us energy, and at least the possibility of changing the direction of this world in a different direction. If we act properly, even if it is a small act, we will not have to wait for the great and ideal future. The future is an endless series of present times, and to live now as we think we should live; That is, in defiance of all the negativity around us, it is in itself an amazing victory.
Stop thinking that other people's lives are easier than yours
When times get really tough, remember this simple truth: You can't have... Something is easily worthwhile, and when you are struggling for something important to you, and you feel that your life is not fair, look at all the people around you, and realize that every person you see is suffering from something, and for them it is just as difficult as the thing you are going through.
Stop wanting to be in the place of others in life
Stop balancing your place with everyone else's place; This will not move you forward, will not improve your situation, and will not help you find happiness; It only feeds feelings of inferiority and shame and keeps you stuck in place. The truth is, there is no one right path in life; The path that is right for someone will not necessarily be the right path for you, and that is okay. Your journey is not right or wrong, good or bad; Rather, it is completely different. Your life is not meant to look exactly like everyone else's; Because you are not exactly like everyone else, you are a unique person with a unique set of goals, obstacles, dreams, and needs; So stop balancing your life with the lives of others, and start living your life as you wish. You may not always end up in the place you want, but you will eventually reach where you want to be. Trust that you are in the right place at the right time, and trust yourself to achieve the maximum. Benefit in life.
Stop letting strangers' judgments control you
People know your name but not your story. They've heard about what you've done but don't understand what you've been through; So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt, in the end it doesn't matter what others think of you; Rather, what you think about yourself is important, and sometimes you have to do exactly what is right for you and your life without caring about what your life looks like to people who do not know you.
Stop letting toxic relationships get you down
Not all toxic relationships are intentionally painful; Some of them include people who care about you, and people who have good intentions, but are not a good fit for you. Because their needs and way of life force you to give up yourself and your happiness; They are not inherently bad people, but they are not the right people to spend time with every day. Although it is difficult, we have to distance ourselves from them enough to give ourselves space to live; You cannot simply destroy yourself daily for the sake of someone else; So you have to make your safety a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone, ditching a friend, or removing yourself from a painful situation, you have every right to step away and create a healthy space for yourself.
Abandon overthinking and worrying about everything
When your fears and anxiety make you look deeply into things; It creates problems for you, and does not fix them, and if you think too much, you will never think of being happy, and worry does not remove tomorrow’s problems; Rather, it takes away the peace and potential of today, and life is too short to do that.
Stop thinking that you are not strong enough to take another step forward
You can always move forward no matter if it seems impossible; With the passage of time, the sadness may not disappear completely, but after a period of time it will not be as heartbreaking as it was in the beginning. So take deep breaths, you will be fine, and remember that you have gone through the same thing before. You felt this feeling of discomfort, anxiety and fear, and you survived. Take another breath, and know that you can survive this time too; Because these feelings cannot destroy you; It's painful and it's exhausting, but you can bear it. In the end, it will pass. Maybe not right away, but soon it will fade away. And when it does, you'll look back and find gratitude for never doubting your ability to persevere.
Conclusion
In conclusion: The truth is that you have to believe in your strength enough to take another step forward every day, and when you feel otherwise, This feeling is just a feeling and not a reality. So the only point you should take away from this article is: The worst and first place we lose our footing is in our heads. If you think something is permanent, it is permanent. If you think you are broken inside, then you are. And if you think you are broken inside, you are. You have reached your limits, you have truly arrived, and if you think you will never heal and grow, you will not; So you have to change your mind, and you have to see everything that hinders you in your life, every obstacle, and every restriction as temporary; Because everything in life is temporary, and this is the truth.
Taken from an article written by ANGEL CHERNOFF on purposefairy
